The phrase “leaning in” can be triggering for many women We have hard It often, lean in to be heard as if we aren’t speaking up. Lean in, to be seen, as if we aren’t showing up. Then hear I come using the phrase to engage with you via this blog post.
I often wait for inspiration to write to you all because most of the time I feel resistant. As I sit down to write, I wonder if what I write makes sense (and I’m sure there are plenty of times when I could have been clearer with my messaging). I also wonder if what I have to share will resonate with you all. I also feel resistance because I’m afraid of putting words to the page and then getting no engagement.
At the point where the resistance is super strong, I just push past it and work on other tasks that fit into my comfort zone. I push against the resistance but in the direction of what is safe rather than what will help me grow.
My 8-4 (which sometimes is 7:30 – 7:30) is an amazing place to work. I’ve grown a great deal and I learn more about myself every day. One big lesson I’ve learned is the power of vulnerability and naming what is difficult to name. So, today, rather than pushing past the resistance I’m leaning in and writing this blog post.
I am thankful that you follow me and are a part of my community. I also want to thank you for sharing with me your journeys in motherhood, and life in general.
As I lean into resistance, I name the resistance in order to take away its power. If I ignore the resistance and push past it I only continue to push that energy down and further clog up my ability to show up for anyone. However, when I lean into the resistance I can attach a feeling or a trigger to the resistance. I can name it. What I was feeling was fear. Fear of all the unknown things that could possibly happen.
When I lean into resistance I take away its power and lessen its hold on It. Think of that nagging resistance (Ego) as a bully. The more you ignore the bully the more vocal they become but if you acknowledge the bully and expose them for who they are, then back down. Resistance works the same way.
Guiding Questions against the feeling of resistance
Next time you are resistant towards something I encourage you to ask yourself the following three questions:
- What feeling or trigger is attached to this resistance?
- What do I need to do to continue moving forward while acknowledging the resistance for what It is?
- Can I jump into the task or situation that is bringing up this resistance for a short amount of time? If so, how can I do this without bringing more harm to myself?
I would love to hear how you are leaning into resistance. Please leave a comment below or reach out to me via email.
Sending you love!
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